“Are you a player?” he asked me as we walked down the street.
“No, I just crush a lot,” I smiled.
I went home alone that night and I called my friend. “I only date players,” I said.
“You’re the biggest player I know,” she told me with no hesitation.
No. No, no, no, no. I can’t be a player.
The word “player” has such a negative connotation. It means he’s leading you on — he’s acting like he’s more interested in you than he really is.
A player is also someone who’s dating you and multiple other people at the same time. But because the relationship isn’t “real,” or defined, you can’t consider it cheating.
A player is cheating the system; they’re playing the game.
When I first started using Tinder, I loved how guys were always ready for a Tuesday night date.
You could swipe right in one second and your date would be waiting for you at a local bar just a couple hours later.
It was easy and simple, and it made the whole question of compatibility easy to distinguish. You actually met the person right away.
Going on a Tinder/Bumble/DM date was like eating a taco on taco Tuesday. It was convenient, it was fun and it was socially acceptable.
But after a while, you take a break from tacos and you come back and sit and wait and eventually think about getting more tacos. But no one asks you to go get tacos when you want them to.
When you start to date people, they could be seeing someone else. You know it and I know it, this isn’t your first taco.
There’s no rule book for when it’s inappropriate or hurtful to go on dates with someone else throughout the dating process.
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