All of my friends are picking up their dating game and I’m actually put mine down this year. I don’t know if you’ve gotten busier or it’s just me – but I don’t have time to swipe on Tinder or Bumble. And when I do have a wifi connection – and look at the possible suitors – it seems like it’s not just me. So, what is going on with dating apps- how do we find our summer time fling or our SOS?
As always, we have options:
You can step up your profile game:
I know it’s difficult, but you could change your photos (maybe lose the scarf and winter coats), update your bio with something more of substance other than “no hookups” or “brunch, dogs, and pools”.
Or you know – you could talk first. I know, it’s hard and it’s a lot more work than waiting for the other person to tell you you’re cute. But, as long as you’re not starting out with “hey there,” I think you should be fine.
You can change where you’re swiping:
While Bumble and Tinder still seem to be the most used, as I meet more couples and single girl bosses, I’ve noticed that they are searching on Hinge or Coffee Meets Bagel. And honestly, I would add social media platforms like Instagram to your list. I’ve met my best friends through Instagram, and I’m not alone. Adam Soko, one of Chicago’s top foodies, met his best friend through Instagram. I think when you appreciate someone else’s work and you inspire each other, it’s probably the beginning of a great relationship.
I did a recent poll on my Instagram stories asking my followers if they would meet someone from Instagram and 97 percent said yes. So, there you go – slide into his DM’s.
You could talk to people IRL:
I don’t know if you feel this way, but I prefer it when a guy actually asks me out in person. Like some people don’t consider the first time you meet someone from Bumble a date. They call it a “hangout.” It’s all very confusing.
You could take a break:
Your soulmate is probably off in Ibeza or reading in the park. Summer is the perfect time to enjoy rooftops, cross things off your bucket list, enjoy vacay, and maybe do something other than focus on relationships. I’m kindof in this zone and have been for a few months. I’ve been focusing on other things besides dating, and quite honestly, I’m really happy. I’ve been meeting up with old friends, excelling at work, and enjoying rooftops and patios.
You can take a few months or weeks off. It’s weird because dating seems like a daily chore and it doesn’t have to be. If you need to take a summer break, do it. But, if you want to cuddle with someone on a rooftop or be romantic at movies in the park (which you should seriously do), then by all means, keep swiping, keep smiling – and remember, have fun! Dating should be fun and enjoyable though sometimes he can be flakier than a croissant. If you’re not having fun with someone and enjoy talking to them – then move on.
Amanda Elliott is a writer and speaker and a relationship builder. She believes that meeting people in person is important. After attending numerous fashion, startup, and creative events, she founded Windy City Cosmo is 2015 to help people make connections in the city as they build their businesses, start and end relationships and see and be seen. Over the past three years, the entrepreneurs she’s interviewed have become the most successful in Chicago and Windy City Cosmo won an award in 2017 for her work for female entrepreneurs.