In a Saturated Market, The Only Way to Stand Out is a Resume

In what is being called an “unreal effort” on social media, one man’s attempt to date has gone viral. Joseph A. Adams put together a dating resume to respond to someone’s Facebook post asking for suitors.

Of course, Joseph is from Michigan, and he even created charts to showcase his interests. In case you’re wondering, Netflix and making bomb playlists are part of that chart – still unknown if they include Drake’s “More Life” or old school alternative from The Goo Goo Dolls.

According to Elite Daily, he didn’t get a date with the first Facebook post, but because he was prepared when this girl asked, other girls have noticed – and shared his resume. And it looks like he will have plenty of dates.

Although people look at the workforce as a saturated and competitive space, I don’t think anyone anticipated the amount of people they are competing with in the dating world.

There’s an estimated 50 million users on Tinder alone. Fifty million. And at 35 minutes a day, 10 million active users daily, it’s easy  to get a match but not be asked out especially when you move to other apps like Bumble, with time and gender constraints  – women have to say something more creative than “hi” to get a man’s attention.

I must say, he seems witty, he indicates that he’s educated and has a stable job, and he is relatable, but at the same time his extra effort shows that he’s serious. I mean damn, Joseph. It’s great. There are a few things that every girl wants to know before matching with someone from an app or the internet. And he didn’t cover all of them.

I agree that sometimes it’s hard to standout on dating apps and websites. All you really want to know is:

  • Are you available in the next few hours or days (please don’t be boarding a flight to London and match with me)?
  • Are you a reasonable height?
  • Do you have a job – and a career in mind i.e. something that says I’m looking at my life from another perspective than the present?
  • What are your intentions?  – are you going to knock on my door at 3 am to make out with me?
  • And, especially in the Trump era – are you a Republican or Democrat?

Of course, chemistry and conversations, scent, and availability are only things you can find out once in person.

After using dating apps since 2014, I admit that it’s painful that I’ve already re-matched with past suitors and I don’t know if it’s because they forget that we went out once or they thought we were friends and could catch up. You start to think that maybe you should go to events or join a sports league instead of swiping for Mr. Right (Now).

See Joseph’s complete dating resume below. Now all I want to know is if you saw this resume, would you text him or send him a LinkedIn invite?

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Fat Tuesday and Mardi Gras Parties in Chicago

It’s that time of year when Gabrielle Union and Chicago Bulls, Dwyane Wade and everyone else wants to experience NOLA. But, Chicago is so nice right now. Like global warming brought summertime Chi to February nice. So, it might be time to indulge in Fat Tuesday, Mardi Gras festivities in Chicago.

We’ve got you covered for the Mardi Gras bar crawls and specials. Now all that’s left is finding some beads and figuring out what to give up for lent.

2017 Mardi Gras Bar Crawl Chicago:

Saturday, February 25th, it’s time to crawl to a few Chicago bars including Burger Bar and Sono Wood Fired Grill. For the cost of two cosmos, the tickets ($20) include bar hopping with a Mardi Gras mask and beads and enjoy food and drink specials along the ways.
The Mardi Gras Bar Crawl includes:
  • (2) $5 Gift Cards (Food or Drink)
  • Drink Specials ($3, $4 & $5 Specials)
  • Limited Masks & Beads Will Be Provided!
  • No Cover (You may still have to wait in line)
  • Photo Hunt & Online Contest for Best Mask!
  • Registration 2-4pm (Please do not be late!)
  • Portion of proceeds benefit local charity

Plus, if you are using Lyft for the first time, you can earn $50 in free rides.

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Sign-up now for the Mardi Gras Bar Crawl on February 25th!

2017 Mardi Gras Party Bus:

Sometimes, you can’t even crawl, you need a bus to escort you between bars. And, we’ve also got you covered. This event is sponsored by MeetPeopleChicago, which puts on intimate and lively events in the city including this easy dating at one of the most romantic restaurants in the city, The Bedford.

Tickets include the bus that will take you to four bars in four different neighborhoods including:

  • Clark Street Ale House/River North
  • Rocky’s/Bridgeport
  • The Owl/Logan Square
  • Original Mothers/Gold Coast

Sign-up now for the Mardi Gras Party Bus on February 25th.

Mardi Gras Booze Cruise:

Tickets ($30-$40) include a Live DJ, Dancing, and A Drink At The After-Party! Catch breathtaking views of the skyline while aboard the booze cruise.

Sign-up for the Mardi Gras Booze Cruise on February 25th!

Sunday Sinners Mardi Gras Brunch:

Learn to make a classic New Orleans brunch including crab cakes with remoulade, grillades and grits and lemon bread pudding with dried cherries & cafe brulot.

Tickets ($80) include:

  • Crab Cakes with Remoulade
  • Grillades & Grits
  • Lemon Bread Pudding with Dried Cherries & Café Brulot

Sign-up for the Mardi Gras Brunch on February 25th!

Mardi Gras Madness:

If you want to start the weekend off with a little madness, go to Merchandise Mart on Friday, February 24th. My fellow Chicago blogger, Chi At A Glance has all the details including the oysters and French 75s for you to sign-up. 

If you would like to skip the night of debauchery for one fancy Mardi Gras cocktail or let’s face it, a lot of good seafood, Chicago has you covered as well. Carnival in the West Loop is having a Carnivale celebration on Fat Tuesday with Mardi Gras inspired drinks.

And just a personal tip, before a weekend of partying, plan ahead to indulge on the actual Fat Tuesday, Tuesday, February 28th off with Paczki Day and read about where to get them.

Let me know about your favorite place in Chicago is to get your NOLA vibes.

 

 

 

 

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What Do City Girls Do During The Weekend?

January and Chicago winters in general is a time that you either get sick, get asked to cuddle, or Netflix and Chill by yourself.

One of my favorite newsletters, The Hustle, asked their readers to submit a selfie with what they did over the weekend. The results were pretty mixed and inspiring from a weekend of calling relatives and Netflix and Chill to a day on a plane.

Every weekend it seems like there are the standard options – go on a Tinder date, go to the bar, Netflix or read, and apparently meal prep and grocery shop are also popular as well as go to the gym.

But reflecting over this weekend, I didn’t really do any of those things. You can always check real time updates on my Snapchat (Rationalization) or my Instagram (@WindyCityCosmo), but for a whole snapshot of a city girl’s weekend plans during the winter in Chicago, here you go.

Cheers to saying no to cabin fever.

This weekend started off. I have been trying to take a break from dating -something I seem to do every year in January or February. As I started swiping, my friend invited me over. I got together with a few friends who were studying for their project management certification. We made pasta and garlic bread and talked about politics especially NATO and Donald Trump. Then we moved onto discussing whether I wear too much black, if we should make YouTube channels and the struggles in interracial relationships.

I took an Uber home and crashed on my friend’s couch. The next morning my friend had a day date – a breakfast date. She came back, and she helped me move some stuff into my new apartment.

She decided that some things have to go and we threw out dragged a dresser to the curb.

We went shopping for a few apartment things on State Street and then ate dinner at Nando’s on Wabash. Their chicken is everything.

Netflix:

She went home to Netflix because A Series of Unfortunate Events was released on Friday the 13th and then, she got ready for a party. I went to my apartment. I found the grocery store nearby and talked to my parents while I shopped for gluten-free waffles. That wasn’t the intent, but I always like to try something new when I shop. P.S. the grocery store is a ghost town on Saturday night.

My friend came over to my new apartment. And though we talked about going to a bar we ended up drinking cider, talking about relationships and watching the last episode in Gilmore Girls Revival (and surprisingly liking it more the second time watching it). My friend went to the Green Mill, and I fell asleep around 1:30 am.

The next morning I woke up and hit snooze. I rushed to take a shower and realized I forgot to buy soap. So, I used hand soap! Then I took an Uber to church. I met with my friend and we made plans to watch The Bachelor, though Nick is being a bit weird.

I took the Clark bus downtown and figured out how to get quarters to do this week’s worth of laundry (which by the way is at the bank, or if it’s Sunday, at Mariano’s). I had book club that afternoon so I was religiously listening to the audiobook “Born a Crime”. Pro tip: if you speed up the reading time to 1.5 speed, you can still understand the book and finish it. Yes, Trevor Noah’s book is amazing.

Book Club:

The painters came to my apartment early, so I took a longer walk through my neighborhood and went to book club. We drank mimosas and bottled margaritas and discussed our feelings about Trevor’s life i.e. is he funnier that John Stewart, does South Africa have the most corrupt cops (they don’t, it’s actually Haiti – yes we looked it up) and how serious is domestic violence (in Chicago, see here), what does it mean to hustle, and what we learned about Apartheid.

Football and Politics:

In between this discussion, the Cowboys vs. Packers game was on and we watched the incredible game. The last two field goals were everything.

We lingered and talked about Donald Trump’s inauguration and updates on starting a career. Everyone left and I started falling asleep to Princess Bride. I took an Uber home and finished drying my clothes.

So I guess my weekend was ordinary – shopping, chores, and hanging out with friends, but honestly, I live for great conversation, amazing company, and good books, so I’m pretty happy.

What did you do this weekend?

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5 Tips for Traveling Alone

Adventure. You want it, but should you go on a trip alone?

Let’s start with the fact that you can do anything alone. But when you are traveling alone, here are 5 tips to consider during your solo travel.

Choosing Your Destination

I’ve traveled solo both internationally to Paris and domestically to Seattle. I think that if you are traveling to any major metropolitan area, you should travel alone. But, I also have friends that take solo trips to the forest with their toddler or bike from Florida to California by themselves.

 

Pick an adventure that excites you.

Choosing a Place to Stay

When I travel alone, I like to stay in a hostel or in an Airbnb. With Airbnb, you not only get to stay with someone who might take you out for drinks or have dinner with you, but they also have great tips for getting around and secret spots to explore.

Airbnb also helps you plan for your trip ahead of time. Past travelers leave reviews and will let you know how they got around (i.e. we took $8 Ubers) and places nearby.

Lastly, a lot of people open their homes through Airbnb and you get to stay in unique places. I recently stayed in a mansion in Seattle.

In Chicago, I volunteer at Hostelling International, and hostels will put together outings and tours and have great guides to help you navigate the city. I stayed in a hostel in Paris and the same week I was there another guy was there for the week. While I was at fashion shows during the day and he was trying to become a chef in Paris, at night we did check-in on each other and share a few meals.

Of course, if you are traveling alone to get away and be pampered, I won’t judge you for staying in a hotel room and enjoying a Jacuzzi. On my first business trip, there was a Jacuzzi in my room. And, I’m not complaining about the experience.

Travel Light

It took awhile for me to perfect packing. And though I understand the value of always being prepared, I realized that I didn’t need to pack heels.

When you are traveling alone, you are also carrying your suitcase alone. So, travel light. Roll your clothes. Bring one less pair of shoes. You find that when you travel, you don’t need to bring your entire skincare system  or excess outfits. The only thing you really need is a phone and a charger and your wallet. Beyond that, try not to pack too many valuables. Travel light.

Read Travel Magazines to Plan Your Trip

Planning  what you do on vacation is probably the hardest part. If you are traveling and working, you want to find hotspots or cafes for Internet access. But beyond that, when you travel there are parks to see, museums, and then restaurants. So, how do you know what to see?

When I went to Seattle, I picked up a travel guide and discovered a lot about the city. But then it also had great recommendations for restaurants and insider tips like when to go there and a bit of depth into the ambiance. Travel magazines are great tools to find a local’s perspective and learn about travel apps and cheap flights.

But also, reach out to friends and see if anyone else has traveled where you are going.

Share Your Adventure

One of the most important things about traveling alone abroad or domestically, is to let someone know that you are going. When you travel alone, you may meet strangers and be staying in their homes, you may get hurt and you may lose your ID. It’s always a good idea to let a close friend of relative ave a copy of your passport or ID and then also know where you are going.

But beyond that, share your story. There are some great Snapchat travel bloggers who share their adventures.

My friend’s solo bike trip across country was one of the most inspiring trips to read about. He started a Facebook page and updated it so it felt like we were traveling with him.

“I was a boy who spontaneously grabbed a bike and although not touching one since my days in middle school, set out to cross the united states on it, sleeping in stranger’s homes and camping in five different states. I have swam with wild dolphins, sprinted up lighthouses, greeted the founder and owner of Chick-Fil-A, walked around the Kennedy Space Center, visited the gulf coast on the fateful day of Katrina’s landfall and still being able to observe Katrina’s aftermath five years later, explored a battleship, rolled through a handful of colleges, hiked up half a dozen mountains … and will soon see the west coast for the first time, after inexperiencedly biking close to 3,000 miles to get there,” – Kevin Willaman from his Facebook Page, Follow My Bike Adventure Across America.

You learn a lot about the world, about yourself, and about what you value when you travel alone. So, whether it’s a weekend getaway, a semester in Europe, or a year alone, I encourage you to share your travel story and connect with other travelers.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Why Traveling Alone Was The Best Thing I’ve Ever Done

Traveling alone as a woman sounds scary. I recently took my second solo trip. This time, instead of internationally traveling alone, I took a domestic trip to the Pacific Northwest to Seattle. I ate by myself. I went to the club by myself. I walked 29 miles uphill and down by myself.

And you know what, traveling alone was the best experience I’ve ever had. Partially because Seattle was one of the best places to travel alone and partially because it helped me discover a lot about myself.

1. You Find Our What Makes You Sad, Happy and Awkward

When you are always around the same group of people and the same environment, you don’t always take a moment to realize what makes you really happy or sad.

When I first got to Seattle, I was happy at the airport – taking in the advertising of “best coffee” and seeing the faux fur embellishments on women’s jackets.

But then when I started exploring on my own, I noticed how everything surprised me. The anthropological side of me came out as I took in the scent of the forest, the drunk and high people climbing up the streets, the cream cheese that they put on their hot dogs and the wild beasts getting into a fight on the street.

While I liked exploring a new city, I realized that I felt uncomfortable and awkward. I acted like I didn’t belong. Like I was someone time traveling. So, after going into various bars and leaving, I went to a waffle bar at 11:30 pm and sat and read my book. I felt like myself again.

I also learned that I liked getting up early and going on an adventure all day and coming home tired at night. I stopped and found what gave me joy like getting my nails done, being on a ferry, or climbing up a hill and sitting in the forest overlooking the city.

2. You Take The Time To Enjoy The Moment

When you are traveling, especially for two days, you want to experience everything. So, you rush. But on this solo trip, I did everything I wanted to do and I stopped and enjoyed the moment.

I was walking to Oriental Park because I love modern art. But then, I saw the sunshine coming thru and followed it to a gorgeous park. And it was there that i discovered one of the most amazing views of Seattle. I didn’t realize how much feeling the sun on my skin would make me so happy.

3. You Discover What You Like To Eat

Whenever you travel, you have the opportunity to try new foods. Though I was in Seattle and I couldn’t wait to have a good cup of coffee, I discovered that I don’t like macchiatos, I like hot apple cider. But, I’ve always been one to be indecisive about coffee. 

And then I wanted sea food. My friend had traveled to Seattle and she mentioned the amazing seafood. So, I went and found a good restaurant on an island because there were no ferries to West Seattle. So, my seafood hunt ended when I sat and ate crab risotto. While it was fancy and well-prepared, I didn’t really like crab risotto.

My favorite meal of the entire trip was hot apple cider and butternut squash and kale quiche in a Seattle coffee shop.

4. You Become Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

One of the best parts about traveling alone is that you become comfortable with being uncomfortable.

It took a lot for me to sit at a restaurant and eat. I found it boring. I felt like I had to be super interested in a book or my phone.  And then I realized that it was okay to eat alone. Mostly I found that sitting all by myself in a restaurant is not fun and it’s not something I like to do. I’m okay with drinking alone, but for the most part, I like sharing my life with others – which is why I love dinner parties so much.

But it was other things. Like I love taking photographs, but I’m always embarrassed that I take so many and that they are out of focus. It took an entire day, but the next day, I felt not only comfortable traveling alone, but comfortable with myself. I didn’t feel judged for playing in the water fountain or helping a man hang Christmas lights, or listening to rap music as I contoured and highlighted my face. 

Not only did I find out what I love doing but I actually enjoyed doing it because I stopped giving people power over me to judge me. Yes, I’m alone. Yes, I’m walking. Yes, I’m excited about this cup of coffee. And for the first time, I didn’t hide my emotion or become self-conscious. I just let myself live and enjoy.

5. You Do What You’ve Always Wanted

When you are in a new city by yourself, you get to be impulsive. You get to stop and take the tour and learn some history about the city. You get to stop for a cup of coffee or a danish. You get to stop at the book store and explore all of those books you never thought you would enjoy.

When you are traveling alone, it’s okay if you wake up at 6 am to read The New York Times. It’s okay to go home when you’re tired even if it’s 9 pm.

6. You Feel Empowered and Inspired

But most importantly, you realize that your life is inspiring and amazing. When I’m with other people, I always think they are doing things better than me and I’m doing everything wrong. I know it’s crazy to walk everywhere, but that’s what I felt like doing.

I haven’t been inspired to write in a long time, and this trip helped me realize that it’s okay to have passions and pursue them even though you may not be perfect or may not know how things might turn out. So, I’ve started writing again and being published again. 

So, it’s not that I couldn’t do any of these things in Chicago, where I live. Because I live alone and go to events alone all of the time, but it’s that when I was traveling alone, I was put in a new environment, that helped me discover different aspects about myself.

That’s what traveling does – it helps you find your place. It helps you find out who you are and do it on purpose. Of course travel with friends – I love traveling with friends, but I’m really glad that I took this trip to Seattle alone.

I do think it’s important to take some time for yourself to find out things about yourself when you travel alone.

Don’t forget these traveling tips for your first or next solo adventure.

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