Confidence is one of those things that we either have or don’t. Just kidding. It’s something you can develop if you don’t have it or lose it for a myraid of reasons. I was talking with some friends and one of my friends said – you don’t struggle with confidence, do you?
I’m constantly the life of the party or the one talking to strangers or doing something I’ve never done before. And the answer is “yes.”
The first photo is of me hosting my own show and interviewing HBO 💁🏻♀️ The second is of me going on the radio to be interviewed on WGN about my blog and dating life. Let me just tell you, in the first case, I didn’t think I was pretty enough or skinny enough or good enough for camera.
In the second, I didn’t think I would have anything to say.
I’ve noticed that confidence kindof messes with a lot of areas in my life.
Guys I’ve dated have asked me to share my thoughts on things and I was too shy or afraid to share them. I reverted to this awkward, shy girl.
I’ve been asked to do photoshoots and be on camera and I’ve turned them down. I’ve turned down events, opportunities and just going out with a guy because he was hotter than me, IMO.
I think it’s important to spend our time doing things we love, listening to people who get us and can help us, and developing our own talents and skills, and finding our passion.
How to Develop Confidence.
Give yourself a seat at the table this week. You have a lot going for you and yes there might be areas to work on, but you have to start with where you are now.
Start slowly. Do research and develop opinions. journal. Spend time picking out your outfit or get up earlier to put makeup on or to go for that run or meditate. Whatever makes you feel like you and helps you put your best self forward. Like who you are now, do the things you love, and go forth and be confident. Because when opportunity comes, I want you to say “yes, I can do this.”
Amanda Elliott is a writer and speaker and a relationship builder. She believes that meeting people in person is important. After attending numerous fashion, startup, and creative events, she founded Windy City Cosmo is 2015 to help people make connections in the city as they build their businesses, start and end relationships and see and be seen. Over the past three years, the entrepreneurs she’s interviewed have become the most successful in Chicago and Windy City Cosmo won an award in 2017 for her work for female entrepreneurs.